Female masturbation as the word denotes defines the act of Female masturbation in itself. Is the act of Female masturbation merely a Channel for satisfying the inherent sexual urges that exists within every female once she gains puberty! No… The act of Female masturbation is inherent in every female as was destined by God the Almighty.

Here we need to discuss why the need for Female masturbation at all! Why this act (of female masturbation) was created by God the Almighty… can we not do without! Are there females who do not feel the urge at all in their lifetime? No, it is never so! Every female the moment she attains puberty develops this urge inherently come whatever may! Why so?

If we try to understand the femininity as was created by God the Almighty we shall arrive at a conclusion that unless there is a Channel for dissipating the excess energies preserved in an individual… there is always a possibility that the individual self would find unhealthy means of gratification. The Channel of Female masturbation was built by God in the similar manner as we have a pressure release valve in a pressure cooker.

Even the most accomplished females existing on Mother Earth have at any stage indulged in female masturbation. One may admit or not because of the nature of feminine gender (contrary to what the famous philosopher and psychologist Bertrand Russell acknowledged in his autobiography that he was a genius and to that matter an expert in the act of male masturbation). Admittance or a denial but the truthful facts can never be denied.

Yes! It is a fact that the most accomplished females existing on Mother Earth were able to transmute this potential source of energy into more creative channels. And it is these accomplishments which every female must indulge in. Why indulge in Female masturbation when one can easily transmute this most potential source of energy into creative activity that leads one to gaining fame in the field of our liking.

Admittance by most females to the act of Female masturbation would not be accomplished yet, but the likes of Mother Teresa, famous Prime Ministers like Golda Meier, Margaret Thatcher, Srimavo Bandaranaike and Indira Gandhi are some of the established and accomplished leaders of the world who whenever felt the urge channelised it to more creative paths.

Why indulge in the act of Female masturbation and destroy our future… Do we realize that this potential source of energy given to every female every month had a very potential reason for it to be given by God? Unless and until this excessive dose of energy which is available to every female every month was provided by God… the journey as a manifested human being would not have been possible for a female.

The rigors of the day-to-day working require a massive dose of energy and it is not within the powers of a female to produce this energy on its own. God the Almighty graced all females with this bountiful source of energy available to every woman every month. Knowing well that it may not be possible for every female to channelise this energy into creative forms God had to create another source to Channel out the excess energy… and hence the act of female masturbation.

Female masturbation is not an act to be ashamed of but why Channel out this most creative energy by indulging in female masturbation. Why not transmute it into more creative forms of energy existing on Mother Earth. It is an established fact that if from the times a woman gains puberty… she does not indulge in the act of Female masturbation then this woman shall make her mark in the world with golden letters.

It is only the act of transmuting the monthly source of energy into more creative uses by which one can put an end to the act of female masturbation. And to be able to transmute this monthly source of energy into more creative uses is not that difficult a task as it may be presumed to be. One only needs to establish at an early age a goal of life. And if we are to achieve this goal of life within the physical lifetime of 70 to 80 years then where is the time to indulge in the act of female masturbation.

We must always remember that we are not alone in the act of female masturbation. Many rather most indulge in this act of Female masturbation but may not be able to freely admit it. Indulgence in the act of Female masturbation is not harmful but it is also not creative. Why not pray to God the Almighty to help us transmute the potential energy given to every female every month. And it is this act of non-indulgence in Female masturbation that shall win us the day.

We also need to remember that non-indulgence on female masturbation shall increase the resistance of the body to such levels that no disease can overtake us. Free of all diseases for ever one basks in the glory of non-indulgence in female masturbation. It need not be emphasized that non-indulgence in female masturbation shall lead one to unfettered heights in leadership and accomplishments in life.

Masturbation is the self stimulus of the genitals for pleasure and self comfort. It’s an act of self encouragement to produce sexual arousal, pleasure and orgasm. Masturbation in historical perspective was considered by many as more dangerous than smoking and therefore evil. But the truth is that it was highly prevalent during the early periods and among today’s youth approximately 94% of the male population masturbates.

In Pope Paul VI’s words it was a “seriously disordered act”. In many societies, masturbation is still a taboo and much stigma attached to it. This notion came about due to the thought that masturbation is driven by lust and fantasy. Kids tease each other that it will make you go blind and make your palms hairy. Recently a research showed men who ejaculate between the ages of 20 and 50 are less likely to develop prostate cancer. Studies show that ejaculating frequently cut the risk of prostate cancer by preventing the buildup of harmful chemicals. Ejaculation will flush out these carcinogens and will therefore not damage the cells.

Sure masturbation is compelling and is sex focused on pleasure, nothing else. But as long as it is a part of your life and not whole of your life, you’re fine. As I view it, masturbation is mostly about enjoyment and nothing else. Masturbation is one sexual pleasure that you give yourself without harm.

Masturbation is sex with someone you love dearly. Consider it as having sex with one’s self and is definitely not wrong in the eyes of God as some would like you to believe. Masturbation is not a Sin. Health Professionals will tell you that masturbation is a natural and healthy part of male and female self control. It is a normal and healthy practice, like day dreaming or sleeping and eating. Therefore tell your children that masturbation is natural for children and adults, and that even their friends probably masturbate. It is entirely normal plus a good way of getting to know your body – a form of self exploration.

However, a side effect attached with masturbation is that you can get hooked. Masturbation is sometimes used as a substitute for true intimacy normally with a partner. Compulsive masturbation could be a symptom of a deeper disorder such as lack of intimacy or feeling of hidden shame for instance.

The performing of the masturbation is as ancient as the history of mankind.

Masturbation is often considered a private topic and some people may feel embarrassed to think or ask about it. But the question of whether it should be considered as being unfaithful when done in secret by someone in a relationship or marriage is one that comes up quite frequently.

Masturbation is a very common behavior, even among people who have sexual relations with a partner. It is not bad for you physically, sexually or emotionally and is just a normal release of sexual energy. Often it can also be a release of stress and anxiety.

Contrary to some peoples’ beliefs masturbation is not merely a habit of young people but continues throughout active sexual life.

There is no definitive answer as to whether someone who masturbates in secret is being unfaithful to their partner or spouse. That depends on the views of the individuals and couples concerned.

Where it can become an issue is when each partner in a relationship has different views on it. And because it is considered as a private and taboo topic by some it many never be discussed at all. This is where problems arise in a relationship when one partner discovers the other doing it.

Poor or lack of communication is the biggest cause of problems in relationships and marriages. It is essential that couples are open with each other so that they can set boundaries that are acceptable to both of them.

Masturbation and infidelity are two prime examples of this. Flirting with a third party may be considered as serious to one person as actual physical connection is to another.

There are 3 main types of infidelity: mental, emotional and physical. Masturbation could be considered to be mental infidelity if it is done by a person fantasising about someone other than their partner. But if it is done as a release of stress or anxiety it would probably be considered as harmless by the person doing it. This is why it is so important that couples are open with each other on all aspects of their relationship, including the sexual aspects that they might difficult to discuss.

And we think we are the only one facing this predicament… the act of male masturbation. we fail to realize that even the best of human beings who reached the highest brackets of their life indulged in such activities like male masturbation which are very normal for an average human being.

What wrong has one done… has your indulgence in masturbation caused hurt to anyone… none probably! We feel guilty of masturbation because we keep on losing the vital ingredient of life… the precious semen which is required to be stored if we desire to achieve higher goals in life.

Read the Autobiography of Bertrand Russell – he was an expert in the act of Masturbation. He admitted all this in his autobiography… he was one of the famous psychologists of his time. He never felt guilty of what he had done. Yet, he overcame this fallacy of his life (male masturbation) by adapting a creative attitude towards life. He made himself world-famous.

You are an intelligent human being! What are you waiting for… just stop masturbating from now onwards and that is possible only when you recite some Mantra. And what is that mantra?

For a small moment of time imagine that if all the ladies in the world were your mother, sister or daughter… then also would it be possible for you to imagine yourself in sexual fantasies! Never… and if these sexual fantasies ceased to exist then the need to masturbate would not arise. We only masturbate to gratify and satisfy our sexual urges. And these sexual urges are related to the world of sexual fantasy we have built around us.

Think meeting Ladies on the way in everyday life… and irrespective of the age if you respect that Lady as your mother, sister or daughter… then your sexual urges would gradually decline. And the day would come when they would altogether cease to exist. And that day shall be the golden day of your life. You would have regained all your lost energies.

Don’t forget, these sexual urges which spur male masturbation occur once in a month. And why is that so? Even if one does not indulge in sexual fantasies then also we shall feel the urge to masturbate very strongly at least once in a month. This is the moment wherein we have to maintain absolute control and make sure that no wrong thought related to ladies is permitted to enter our mind. This much exercise you have to do. God has blessed all with mother and sisters… think of their blessings and hard-working nature whenever you feel the urge. I promise it shall always go away…

The monthly dose of energy which God provides to every human being… be it a man or a Lady… is irrespective of whether we conserve it or waste it (by male masturbation). We get the monthly dose no matter what. The prime reason for the monthly dose is that God does not want the human being to feel that the grace of God is not available to mankind. However having given the dose God does not desire of all human beings to complete their cosmic journey early… had it been so there was no reason why God would have created a cosmic journey of 8.4 million manifestations altogether (a total earthly journey of 96.4 million years).

God gives us this energy for us to preserve it… and the ignorant enjoy masturbating and doing away with this most powerful energy of the Cosmos. If we are able to retain it since our childhood then it is possible that in a short period of time this particular child would develop so much energy that one would become a Buddha or a Mahavira in ones lifetime. Is it only practicing celibacy that the spiritual masters of the era were able to reach their goal? Yes, celibacy plays a very vital role in the field of spirituality.

You would have read of the instance of Sage Vishwamitra who fell from grace on seeing the sight of a beautiful Lady taking bath in most sensual circumstances in a forlorn place. And what was that… was it not God testing Sage Vishwamitra whether he would be able to preserve this energy or not… and he failed!

What happened with Acharya Rajneesh (nee Osho)… he experienced a moment in his lifetime that not even a single country in the whole of the world was willing to take him for he was being considered as a rot for the society… his practice of mixing sex with yoga was beyond acceptance… in the domain of pure spirituality… sex has no place whatsoever. Acharya Rajneesh… his doctrine became a failure in the end… he got lost and fell from grace.

If people of the stature of Sage Vishwamitra and Acharya Rajneesh can fall from grace… for a common man to practice masturbation and lose this vital energy is not uncommon. Those who learn this bitter lesson early in life… they achieve the goals in their life early. There is no point thinking of ladies all the time. When comes the time… we shall all get a suitable partner and the need to masturbate would end for ever.

Repeat the above mantra within you as you tend to go wrong… you shall always revert to the right path and refrain from male masturbation. Keep on reciting this mantra as many times as you can. You do not need to sit down in the Lotus posture to recite the mantra. It can be recited even while standing in the corner of the street or while at work… for reciting any kind of mantra no special requirements are ever there. God always desired that everything in the domain of God be available to every human being, rather every Jiva (living being) all the time… there are no special privileges in the kingdom of God. The King and the laborer all stand in the same queue in the kingdom of God.

May God bless us all!

One thing that men who do not know how to attract or seduce women have in common is they jerk-off a lot.

In fact it is more than likely one of the main reason why some men don’t ever take the steps necessary in order to learn how to get women.

It’s a lot more comfortable as well as safer for a man to just play with himself rather than risk rejection from women.

Don’t get me wrong men who are successful with women jerk off and play with themselves as well.

Yet, there is one key difference and it is why those who are successful with can, and men who are not can not.

The difference is a man who is successful with women has a history of actually succeeding with women.

When he sees a woman he is attracted to in his mind he has the skills and experience to draw upon so that he can duplicate that past success and improvise when necessary.

Men who are NOT successful with women only have the fantasies in their head to draw upon and unfortunately when most men play with themselves their fantasy either has the woman seducing him or begins well after the meeting has begun.

This is one reason why men say they need time to think of what they are going to say.

A unsuccessful man with women sees her and his mind automatically goes to sex because that’s what it has been programmed to do.

It is very important to realize that your unconscious mind takes everything real or imagined as real.

So every time you jerk-off and fantasize about what you would do to a woman your unconscious takes it as real even though you are consciously aware that it is only a fantasy.

If instead you begin learning techniques to actually attract women and had fantasies that took you from the Opener all the way to sex, you just might find yourself actually living out those fantasies instead of just pretending.

Of course your conscious mind might not believe it till it actually sees it and we both know the only way to make that happen.

“Masturbation … is not approved of the Lord nor this church, regardless of what may be said by those whose ‘norms’ are lower”, President Kimball of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (1981)

“”Every sperm is sacred. Every sperm is great. If a sperm is wasted, God gets quite irate.”" Monty Python’s The Meaning of Life.

A quote often used by various churches in an effort to contain illicit acts amongst its people. Every sermon on masturbation would quote it, atleast all the sermons I have heard. Under the circumstances, is it difficult to imagine masturbation as one of the biggest taboos in our society? Even today? Scientific education has done a little to change it. Does that mean men and women don’t masturbate? Certainly not. 99% of men and 70% of women masturbate according to various studies. The problem lies in the acceptance of the fact that you masturbate. Let me tell you a story… a story about you.

One night you were sitting alone in your appartment eating pizza. You decided to check out some new sites on the net while you eat. So you log on to your ISP and start surfing. Inadverantely, you come across some piece of pornography (yes, the net is quite full of it!) Looking at those erotic (and often downright nasty photos) you feel a tingling between your legs. One thing leads to another and you end up spoiling your underpants. Now let me tell you another story.

One night you were sitting alone in a bar drinking beer. And then a most gorgeous person enters the bar. The person that causes tingling between your legs just looking at him or her. You decide that you can’t let go of this oppurtunity to get to know this wonderful creation of god. So you move towards this person and start small talk. One thing leads to another and you end up in your appartment.

Whether you are a woman or a man, the next morning you wouldn’t be jumping with joy in the first case. When you go out in the evening to meet your friends, you would not tell them about the hot site you found and how you jerked off to it. Nevertheless, in the second case, you would be telling anyone who cared to listen how you had the most wonderful experience of your life last night. Why? Well, maybe because self pleasure is, well, nothing special. You can do it anytime you want. Ofcourse seducing the person of your dreams is quite an accomplishment. No wonder you need an audience. But what if you have a friend like me. A friend who is crazy enough to ask you did you wank off yesterday night? Was it good? What would you do then? Would you tell your friend about the hot site and your experience? Would you simply say, “”Yeah! It was great! What about you?”" Or would you pretend nothing had happened and lie… something like you were somewhere else yesterday night, or maybe lead your friend to believe you got lucky with someone?

I am guessing you would do the latter. Most certainly you won’t acknowledge the act of masturbation. Rather you would evade the question and change the topic. And when your friend tells you about a hot conquest the same night, you would wish you had a bowl of water in which you could drown. Shame and guilt would come over you and you would change the topic in double quick time. Are you crazy? Noway! You are just one of the majority. And quite a majority at that! Way more majority that what George Bush had in the last elections! The reason – social conditioning!

You are just like the boy who ran out of the cinema hall that was screening an adult film (mind you, he had no business of being there in the first place! But all the cinemas care about is the sale of their tickets!)

Later in the day, the friend who had been at the movies with him, caught up with him and asked, “”Why in the hell’s name did you run out?”" The boy answered, “”My mom said that if I watched a woman getting naked I would turn to stone. And damn you Harry, a part of me was already turning into stone!”"

Unluckily, the social conditioning is wrong. It is as wrong as the social condition in 18-19th century India, where widows were forced to burn alive with their husbands. As wrong as the church was in burning Galileo for implying the Earth was not the centre of the universe. Lily Tomlin put it best, “”We have reasons to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation!”" If god didn’t want us to masturbate, maybe we would still be walking like dogs and horses!

The social conditioning is a result of numerous myths, lies and scams perperated by numerous individuals for personal benefit. Unfortunately, this conditioning is like a hard nut, very tough to crack. However, with effort and chanelising your energies, you can break it. Remember, the nuts that crack the hardest, are often the ones that taste the best! You must be wondering, how the hell does it matter if you feel guilty about masturbation. Why should you spend time breaking this casing?

Certain psychologists believe that guilt conscious, whether sexual guilt or in any other form, is the most destructive element for your mental health. Others believe it is one of the most destructive. But the greatest effect of guilt conscious in my experience has been a lack of confidence in self. Now you are an intelligent reader. I don’t need to explain you the importance of self confidence. Be it your career, relationships or any other aspect of life, lack of confidence can bring your downfall. Now I am not implying that should you start to feel more comfortable about masturbation, you would succeed in all aspects of life. But it would be a nice step to take. An useless guilt that should, and can be eradicated from your mind. Remember, an ocean is made of small droplets of water. Get rid of a drop at a time and in due time, the ocean would be empty! Ofcourse it would take several millenia! Luckily, you don’t have an ocean full of guily! Just some naggings here and there!

The first step towards eradication of this guilt is knowledge. There are thousands of myths around masturbation. Most of them perperated by religion, unfortunately. But some perperated by scam runners. Lets take a look at the most important ones.

1. Masturbation is against the will of god.

Bullshit. At one point the church considered anyone who was overtly passionate to his wife an adultrater. Follow that teaching and your wife would be committing adultery! Several clergymen have gone on record to say that not only the church’s teachings about sexuality were unrelated to the scriptures, but that they caused more harm than good amongst people. Besides, nowhere in the religious teachings of any major religions is masturbation considered wrong.

2. Masturbation will cause impotency.

Most males and even some females seem to think so. Wrong again. Lets tackle the males first. It is understandable that seeing their sperm flow out of their body, they think it may end sometime. Well, it will end one day… maybe when you are 100 years old. But until then don’t worry. Your sperm bank is quite unlike Standard Chartered. You have unlimited credit here! Sperm is a completely renewable resource, renewable on an hourly basis! For women, well, there is no basis in the theory. Probably perperated by old ladies who never had an orgasm in their entire life!

3. Masturbation causes acnes, hair loss, skin diseases.

This one is my favorite. Mainly because it is one of the better scams of all times! Your social conditioning would have you believe that masturbation is bad for your health. But bad how? No one would give you a satisfying answer! Now some scam artists saw this as an good oppurtunity to sell their products like hair growth lotions, etc. Since most people start masturbating during their teens, (the times of acne and other skin problems), they would have you believe that this is caused by masturbation! Unluckily for them, this is as untrue as the sun rising from the west! Masturbation has no physical side effects!

4. Masturbating will make you thin and skinny!

Then there would be no need for diet pills and fitness regimes my friend! And most certainly 70% of USA wouldn’t be overweight!

5. Only Kids masturbate!

Why would you say that? I wonder! Well quite untrue, most adults masturbate… yup even after marriage!

6. Masturbation is for males.

And it is for 70% of the women too. Thats right, two thirds of all females masturbate!

7. Only losers masturbate!

Another of my favorites. Just goes to show just how much of a taboo is masturbation! First thing, 99% of males and 70% of females have masturbated atleast once in their lives. Now that is a hell of a lot of losers don’t you think! Nothing more that I can add really… this is really the epitome of insecurity amongst people regarding self pleasure.

8. Masturbation is for homosexuals.

Wow. Where did that one originate! Someone must make a etymology of these myths, would make for an interesting read! Just as untrue as all these myths, masturbation and homosexuality have nothing in common. Some people masturbate to their fantasies of opposite sex, others to their fantasies of same sex. Thats it.

9. Masturbation will make you blind!

Others claim that masturbation is bad for your eyesights. However, their claims are unsupported by facts and medical advice. I suggest you talk to your general physician and he will explain you what a load of bull this is.

10. Masturbation changes the shape of your penis

Well, it does make it rock hard. But believe me, once you orgasm, the hardness is gone! So no. Masturbation has absolutely no effect on how your penis looks.

There are loads more of these myths circulating around the world. If you have a query about masturbation, ask me, I would happily lay your fears to rest. My email is advice@pornographytimes.com

Now lets move on in an attempt to get rid of your guilt. Clearly, all the reasons that made masturbation such a taboo are baseless. So why should you feel guilty about something that is normal and actually healthy? Healthy? Yes that too! This January, I recieved an email from a woman who had some major problems in her marriage. Due to her career and that of her husband, their sexual life was inexistant. Both held jobs in big MNCs and were frequently out of town. Sometimes, they would see each other once a month! Nevertheless, they were very much in love. Her problem was, that inspite of all their love, they were getting into petty fights with each other. The woman was even experiencing problems during work, getting angry for no apparent reasons, shouting on her team. Her temperament was a creation of the stress caused by extensive work and lack of pleasurable activities. Add to that sexual frustration.

My advice to her was twofold. First, I told her that she would have to slow down, and so should her husband. They must make time for their hobbies, maybe try and get in some physical exercise when they could. Most certainly, they needed to see more of each other. They should onsider talking off a couple of days and just be together. Second, while she was alone, she should consider fantasy therapy. Namely, reading erotic novels, watching erotic movies… exciting herself and eventually masturbating as regularly as she could. Three months later, I recieved a thank you letter from her. Apparently she had put my advice to practice (which is quite rare!) and it had actually helped. (Which is not so rare!)

How did masturbating help her? Because most of her problems arose from stress and lack of physical activities. And masturbation, like sex, is the perfect medicing. When you orgasm, your mind gets cleared of the regular day to day problems. Your body gets excited and the blood flow increases. Sometimes, you even sweat! A complete and perfect exercise for those with lack of time!

The next step in getting rid of your guilt is self belief. Something, no outsider can help you with. Here is what I would counsel. Read as many articles on the internet as you can relating to masturbation. Just so that you know that I am not bullshitting you. Any queries you have, don’t be afraid to ask me or another sex advisor on any of the reputed websites. Remember, the first step is knowledge and the second step is belief. And knowledge leads to belief. Good Wanking!