Most males begin to masturbate between the ages of 14 and 16. Women progress a bit more rapidly and can initiate masturbation after menstruation between the ages of 12 and 15. The majority of people have masturbated during their life. The reasons are sexual and emotional and the body’s natural attraction to pleasure.
In recent years, an abundance of pornography and especially online pornography has helped to elevate the reported instances of both online porn addiction and masturbation addiction. These two fantasy-based sexual addictions may be the source of humor in frat and sorority houses or in school classrooms but in the real world and especially in the real working world, bad things happen to masturbation and pornography addicts.
What sufferers do not realize about sexual addictions is that these dependencies are chemical as well as emotional. The modern world surrounds us all with fantasies. Every television show, millions of web pages, films, books and even newspapers realize that sex sells. Tempting fantasies are thrust upon us at an unfathomable pace.
The act of masturbation is the fondling of one’s sexual organs, primarily the penis or vagina. As socially unacceptable, masturbation occurs in private settings. The addict tends to become aloof and introverted and may not even be aware of these subtle changes. Yet, people close to the addict are very aware of the changes.
- More than 15 percent of online porn addicts develop sexual behaviors that disrupt their lives.
- 49 percent of the partners of masturbation addict reported that their attitude about sex had changed.
Usually people masturbate when they are alone, stressed or conflicted. They are attempting a sensual distraction. What in fact they receive may be different. Masturbation is usually followed by a period of loneliness and self-doubt. Recent research indicates that many seniors still rely upon masturbation as a substitute for intercourse. Masturbation addiction has no age barriers.
Often people resort to masturbation because they are not satisfied with partnered sex. Sufferers from masturbation addiction often prematurely ejaculate. They lose control of their emotions and their fantasies. However, once the brain experiences the neurochemical stimulation of an orgasm, it pushes for more. Suddenly, masturbation becomes all consuming, a sensation the sufferer must complete at any time of any day, whenever the fantasy arises.
In addition to possible bacteria and other health issues, masturbation addiction’s greatest risk is that it will want to be kept re-supplied with greater risks, greater fantasies. Many masturbation addicts may also feel the need to address underlying diagnoses.
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ResistingTheUrge
November 24, 2010
Send me the 8step ebook please.
December 12, 2010
Glad to know that there are people fighting to save human dignity.
February 19, 2011
im glad im not the only one trying to stop
March 16, 2011
God please help me to stop this.
March 19, 2011
I just can’t control myself. I need to but so many nuts now day. PLEASE HELP ME
May 16, 2011
Many people become addicted to porn because of low self-esteem and teenagers are the people who suffer most form it. First what happens is that society percieves masturbation as being wrong (even though everyone has played with themselves at sometime) and because the urge is so great to relieve onself at that age it happens naturally but then the guilt trip of it being ‘wrong’ happens imediately afterwards. Teenagers then end up with a confusion between the high of orgasm and the moral social wrong. Secondly, because sex, masturbation and love are not openly discussed in society and families young people feel they have no-one to relate to and they become isolated within themselves.
If society and parents (especially) sat down and were open and honest about this side of their lives people would not feel isolated. As the years go by from teens into adulthood people carry their secrets of masturbation with them unable to share the pain of their confusion. Some people need the high of orgasm in order to deal with the worst part of their lives, that being their teens, and so turn to pornography and enter into a huge downward spiral of secrecy. The coming of the internet has provided easy access to porn but it has also borne the chat rooms where people can facelessly meet other people who have a shared experience. But rather than facing up and saying “listen I’m glad I’ve met someone who understands what I’m going through” there are too many chatrooms that want to manipulate people and therefore sex and masturbation is on the agenda again rather than help.
I attended counselling a few years ago and I must admit that when I was discussing my habits with the counsellor I would not be turned-on but I would regularly experience erections. My counsellor told me that it was natural and in her experience and knowledge knew that it was not voluntery. I discussed how young I was when I started to going through masturbating wearing my aunts clothes when I was about 14/15yrs old., thrill seeking and online chatrooms and porn etc.
It was a difficult and humiliating time for me going through the counselling but everyday I felt closer to freedom. I don’t think I’ll ever break it but I have to be careful. I still masturbate and use a little porn but not very often, I keep it in check by counting days of abstinence and avoid regular patterns but my life has improved, I feel better about myself because I don’t feel guilty about what I have done and I actually socialize more; getting out and talking to people, enjoying myself, valuing myself and valuing other people; especially women.
Society and religion has a lot to answer for by it’s double standards. We are afterall just a mentally higher evolved animal. We need sex but we have to be moral but not so inept that it damages people in their teenage years.
May 22, 2011
i am glad i am not the only one suffering this habit i know by GODs grace we shall over come it has not come to stay cos is not normal all one need is prayers
June 21, 2011
I’v been masturbating since i was 15, in my early30s now. i’ve not mastubated for 2months now. i’v been tempted though. i believe i can stop totally soon. still got into porn a while ago. the desire has reduced though. i had to tell my wife about it b4 we married. God’s word is workin. i can we. i ain’t perfect, but i can win. i got God.
June 22, 2011
This doesn’t fucking help
June 23, 2011
One thing i’ll say is that when you are idol you’l definately think of it, what you read or watch can make or mar (distroy) you.
July 10, 2011
i’m 11 and i’m addicted i;m christian and i need to stop because if i don’t i will burn in hell so i will stop!
July 22, 2011
God wont send you to hell over something that you can stop. He wants to help you and if you pray and ask older men for help you will be able to stop. No matter how many times you do it keep asking for forgiveness. You will be forgiven no matter how you feel. Forgiveness is about His sacrifice for us not our emotions.
August 23, 2011
Yes! i have stopped masturbating and i have not masturbate since 2 1/2 month now my friend says that my behavior is changed thanks 8 step e book and my health and stamina has increased and i dont feel irritation
August 25, 2011
@Jj5 god doesn’t exist and niether does hell so dont worry.
August 27, 2011
Check out this book: heaven is for real, look it up. It’s a story of a 4 year old boy, and he’s revealed some interesting things.
I masturbate a lot. I don’t hate myself after, I see it as normal and relaxing, as long as it isn’t all you do. Being at work helps, you get to meet some interesting people sometimes. I guess I have a healthy view on masturbation, I try not to let it affect how I feel/my day to day life. There are times when it does, but I brush it off.
October 14, 2011
LOL I WENT TO MY DOC AND HE SAID MASTURBATION DOESNT HARMS DO HOW MUCH U WANT HE SAID IT WONT HARM U BTW HE IS BIG DOC OF OUR TOWN I MEAN HE IS SPECIALIZED ..WUT HE SAID ME DO HOW MUCH U WANT I ASKED MY DAD HE SAID JUST STOP MASTURBATING IT THINGS WILL BE NROMAL IN 6MNTH AND SAID DO ONLY ONCE IN MNTH
October 17, 2011
@jj5 god and Hell definitely exist, but I dnt tink u shld stop just bcos u dnt wnt to burn in Hell. U shld also stop bcos u love God and wld not wnt to hurt him.
October 31, 2011
man im 16 . i been masturbate for a year or two now … i really want to stop bc i think i got pimples bc of that and i look stupid with pimple . i like fucking and i think its an habit and ima try to take out of me . if yal got some help plzzz email and ill appreciate . danm pussy is the shit
December 27, 2011
Dis forum is a good one, I mean all the people that left their comments did a great job sharing their various view and experiences in masturbation.. I was masturbating for years, but stopped; it was recently I began to feel the urges again. But I’m praying God would help me, Cos I aways feel bad after doing it. wether you like it or not is sex n its a sin against oneself and against God.. So I would really love to have me that 8step ebook.. So I can let go of it forever. Please
ndndsend to me…
December 29, 2011
The biggest link that i am seeing with myself regarding porn is the issue of intimacy, I don’t have ppl who I genuinely connec with and I end using porn to fill that void, maybe we should look at that
December 29, 2011
Bless you and thank-you for sharing your thoughts. They are exactly how I’ve been feeling have been feeling so bad after masturbating. I hope to stop doing it completely in the new year.
January 16, 2012
I started masturbating few yrs bck nd I don’t really get to do it once in a while as a result of wat I see nd imagine. All I hav to say in anything u do one’s ur mind set/ ur luv 4 God doesn’t permit try nd stop. Cos I am planing to stop nd God wld help.
January 19, 2012
I mastubate almst once or twice week nd i feel lyk a fool aftr doing it nd it hurts me i realy wnt to stopo plz i need help….
January 23, 2012
i have been mastubate since i was 9 year old now i’m 23 year old i wanna stop but can’t help myself. and it’s not helping my relationship
I NEED HELP
January 29, 2012
man am not alone who has pimples because of masturbation
January 29, 2012
My frend same situation is with me also… m masturbating since i was 8 and now i m 26 but still i am not able to stop it..
I suggest u 1 thing… dont think too much …. just let it be……………….