The more silent, less visible masturbation addiction affects millions of women around the world. While young boys may begin to play with themselves and experiment even before puberty, young girls usually wait until reaching the menstrual cycle. Girls typically mature faster than boys and often face tempting fantasies at an earlier age.
Even then, most women read or are instructed about masturbation before they commence self-exploration. Children who masturbate should not be advised of old wife’s tales and folklore about the age-old practice. What children do need to know is that masturbation can evolve into a lonely, isolated addiction where the real world is replaced by a world of fantasy and risk.
Of course, no dependency is as simple as that. The symptoms of masturbation addiction are serious, carry emotional ties and build scars that need to be treated. There is much to learn about the ageless, non-gender specific masturbation addiction.
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Many women attribute the growth of female masturbation with the release of Betty Freidan’s book “The Feminine Mystique,” released in 1963. Friedan took women’s liberation to the highest level, suggesting that men were not needed in order to enjoy sex. Friedan’s theory is based upon the location of the magical “G spot to which every woman reacts differently. Friedan’s theory seems to promote the pursuit of a meaningful masturbation event.
Is that what sexual intercourse is to you? Masturbation may provide a short-term relief from anxiety, stress, ease the menstrual cramps and even facilitate sleep, but it is a far cry from intercourse. Masturbation also tends to lead to other addictions, the most common being pornography.
When masturbation begins to interfere with your life, you will realize the self-control that you have forfeited. Your self-confidence will be low and your relationship will falter. The process is destructive and inevitable.
Excessive masturbation can also cause sexual dysfunction. Reaching orgasm can be a premature experience for men and an impossible result for women who are accustomed to stimulating themselves. And, sexual partners notice these inconsistencies. In fact, they are turned away from a removed sexual experience.
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August 25, 2010
You don’t back anything up with facts. Nor do you give any opposing opinions. Your site is full of uninformed and one-sided articles that dont really say anything.
September 26, 2010
hi .. I’m 19 years old girl I’ve started masturbation when I was a little girl , and I didn’t know what was happening then I use to do it to facilitate the sleep .. I am not doing it because of desire .. I think I have a problem of sleep … please I need your help I really want to stop it .. waiting for your reply .. thanx
October 8, 2010
hey, my name is jenna and i’m only 13 years old… I can’t BELIEVE what ive done to myself. My guy friend sent me this site as a joke and I clicked on it… it ended up being a gross porn site.
i was really curious soo i looked at moree stuff and i actually started to um, get addicted to it..i can’t tell my mom cause she will probably be ashamed of mee and my older sisters will probably make fun of me. ITS NOT FAIR! Its starting to get really bad…
pleeease help !
You said you started as a young girl sooo…do you have any tips or something to stop ? I REALLY GOTTA STOP BEFORE THIS GETS TOO FAR !
October 12, 2010
Dear Jenna,
I know that you are afraid of your mother’s possible reaction. I do not know your mother myself, but I know she must love you dearly and that she would want what is best for you. But your mom is your best friend and your most powerful ally. If there is anyone whom you can trust to tell, it is her.
I must tell you, I got addicted to pornography at around your age when I discovered my uncle’s porn magazines. I would sneak out to his garage to look at them. It got worse when I started secretly taking them home with me. My addiction grew and I started spending hours on the internet looking for the next new thing. For years, pornography secretly controlled my life and ruined my self perception. I have made progress away from it after I gave my life to Jesus, but I still struggle with this temptation and occasionally relapse.
I kept this secret from my mother for more than a decade, but she finally discovered what I was doing 2 years ago. I was so ashamed of myself that I couldn’t talk to anyone about it. I only started to get better after I began to talk to people whom I could trust.
You are still very young. You have an opportunity to stop this before it becomes a set pattern in your life. But you will only do it if you submit yourself to accountability. Tell your mother, and tell her that you want to stop, and that this is why you are telling her. I know she will understand you, support you, and love you. Of course she will be upset. Just remember that she will be upset because she loves you so much and she doesn’t want anything bad to happen to you. But if she can help you to put a stop to it now, it will be much easier than if you continue to keep it a secret for many years as it starts to dominate you like it did me.
I think you can also seek out mature women who know Jesus to guide you and help you to build a strong spiritual foundation. This is also important. God created all of us with a purpose, which he reveals to us once we are in a relationship with him. So more importantly, seek God. Nothing is too big for him to conquer, and he is your greatest ally of all.
Don’t let your shame drive you deeper into secrecy. I made that mistake, and that is such an easy mistake to make. That is why I have had to battle this problem for more than a decade. You have a chance to stop it now before it becomes that kind of a problem.
I will keep you in my prayers.
October 18, 2010
I began my addiction around the age of 9. I am married and have NEVER had an orgasm. I am now 35 and wanna stop this sick guilt ridden immoral habit. Thank you.
November 3, 2010
Hi, I came to this page just to see a little more about the female side of masturbation. Now that I see these posts, though, I do want to respond to them, even though I am a guy. I broke a masturbation habit that started when I ditched school one day when I was 14. Firstly, I had to go to God with it to get help because he helps immensely with deeply rooted challenges. Specifically, for the masturbating before sleep, because that is something I participated in, this is what I would do. I would make sure that when I was lying down I kept my hand away from my penis. So, you could use the same principle and keep your hands away from your vagina. Also, I consciously kept my pants and underwear on, the point being I can’t get any cookies if I don’t open the cookie jar.
Now as far as masturbating to a lot of internet porn. I had to stop looking at the stuff step by step. First I stopped watching videos, then I stopped looking at pictures and reading erotic literature.
Now, there are times when I am not even thinking about sex and a horny thought might pop into my mind. If I was just getting extremely horny, I would stop what I was doing and go lie down, keeping my hands away from my penis. I looked at it as investing 15 minutes in the quality in my life. The 15 minutes was worth it every time.
November 7, 2010
I’m 13 and I can’t believe what I’ve done.
Every time I look in the mirror now, I can’t believe myself. I don’t know why or how I started, but I always feel terrible now. It’s lowering my self esteem and I literally haven’t told anybody. I’m bisexual, which probably makes this worse. I really have to stop. I’m turning to this site for help, but I still don’t know what to do.
November 7, 2010
I really do feel like sh*t.
December 12, 2010
hey dont think that ur parents will be ashamed of u its a real and common addiction most people have it once in a while! Chances are ur parents went through it! I am a 15 yr old boy and i got in to porn and masturbation because of my friends! I was ashamed and eventually my mum caught me. By then it had evolved in to depresion, social anxiety and anger . It turned out my dad had gone throught it all when he was my age. It helped and becuse of this i became a christian! Now i still have a masturbation addiction but not as bad and the depresion is still there but getting better and social anxiety too and my anger is also there being a christian means i have friends to talk to about it openly which is helping me well! There is a way out of this!
December 22, 2010
There is a healthy point of masturbation then there is the opposite end. I don’t know where you are at but if it feel wrong or is consuming large amounts of your thoughts and time you NEED to change it up.
May 7, 2011
I started to masturbate when i was 11 i got the i pod touch for christmas and my brother did it so i started to. im turning 14 next month and i want to stop im truley addicted i masturbate everyday like 2 sometimes 3 times a day. WHAT DO I DO? PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!
June 12, 2011
me 2!!!!m ur age !!!i dun masturbate like go naked n ol…well nt lately but….i shake the penis!!!it gives me kinda pleasure but i can plesure on earth is nothing….u need to please God and we MASTURbaters are not pleasing him….i Shake like once every 2 days and i wanna stop…ii cant control my hands!!!
June 28, 2011
get a photograph of Jesus on the cross and paste it on your wall, you will stop when you look at His loving face saying, My child, this i did for you, what have you done for me….
July 9, 2011
I started masturbating at about 13 years old and enjoyed it very much. I thought when I got older I would stop, but my desire to masturbate and take pleasure from it did not diminish. I thought that perhaps this would change when I got married, but it didn’t. I still masturbate at least once a day, and often more. I have a wonderful, loving relationship with my wife, who also masturbates fequently. We generally make it a part of our foreplay, and feel that sharing this act with each other has increased our intimacy. I, like most normal healthy people, masturbate often purely for my own pleasure, to release stress, or just to relax. There is absolutely no reason to to feel guilty about masturbating – it’s part of what our bodies are designed to do. Maturbating 2 or 3 times a day as a teenager is certainly not an addiction, it’s a normal part of growing up and everyone – yes, EVERYONE does it. Every person you know masturbates. Your friends, your parents, your teachers, your coworkers, your civic leaders, and even your priest or minister. It’s time to stop being ashamed for doing something as harmlessly natural as making your genitals feel all tingly whenever you like.
July 27, 2011
Thank God for this site. I started masturbating at age 11 and now, at 35, I am legally blind.
Hopefully this will help others before it’s too late.
God bless.
August 6, 2011
I’m 23 years old and the first time I remember being aroused was the age of four. I was in the car going to daycare in a booster seat. There was a safety bar like plastic thing between my legs and I rubbed up against it because it felt good. I thought my behavior was normal. I thought that maybe every little girl was attracted to pepies (penis). I use to sit over the vent while heat would blow out in the winter time. I would let water run for long periods of time in one area of my body while taking a bath or shower. Those were my ways of stimulation until one day, my 5th grade teacher Mrs. Shepard told all the fifth graders in my elementary school during sex education how to masturbate. Following Mrs. Shepard’s instructions, I had my first orgasm alone. At first I enjoyed it and then later I started to feel bad even though no one knew. That conviction did not stop my habit that became a remedy for sleep, stress, and loneliness. Later my remedy became an addiction and today I understand it as an illness.
This illness stems to a sexual abusive act that not even I wanted to remember. I found out that it was not normal for a little girl to be sexually attracted to anyone. I later found out that it’s not normal for a little girl to be aroused by thoughts that should not even exist in a mind still developing.
I went to a website before coming here and I began to look up all types of intercourse and pleasured myself. Then I questioned if masturbation was a form of worship, and if so who was I giving praise to? The god that is pleased by homosexuality, and transsexuals, I believe that would be the very opposite of the one I pray to and want to see when I die. I looked up more things and came to this site because I’m searching for help because I want to change and I need strength to pull a strong addiction by the rout.
August 6, 2011
I love this write up. it really helped me.Thank you ever so much.. Keep it up..Cheers!!!
August 15, 2011
Dear People of the Forum,
I am a guy almost 21. I have been masturbating since i was 13 yo, also the time i started watching porn and fantasizing about women.
When I was 17 i moved a city and for a complete 1.5 years i did not masturbate. The key being to avoid all temptations, first and foremost the internet. Spirituality helps alot and so does prayer and being busy.
After that i eventually started again and now cannot stop it, coz i have a girl friend and we end up having phone sex and stuff.
I know how it feels, it is very difficult , but not impossible.
You need to believ in urself.
I must say the consequences of masturbation are immense both in quantity and quality.
If anyone needs any guidance from me I am there for all of u. Coz i know how it is.
Regards
August 25, 2011
What the fuck! Is this some kind of christian site. Everyone on here is talking about this like it is horrible. It is not, it is normal and natural. And anyone who thinks homosexuality is bad is a motherfucking bitch. However addiction to pornography is very bad. End rant!
August 27, 2011
Justin Taylor. this for u
just think about good thing. always pray god. make busy yourself. it will automatically stood. its real
October 26, 2011
Hey! I’m 20. I’ve been struggling with this problem on and off since i was 11. At first I didn’t know i was masturbating i jus did it bcuz it felt good. But i knew something was wrong. I reallllly want to stop! But i always feel so horny the week after my period. That’s the time i am most vulnerable. sigh! I haven’t told anyone about this i feel so ashamed and kinda weak. I cant even read romance novels! i am afraid i will read something and want to masturbate like i have done in the past. I feel a bit better knowing i am not the only girl going through this
December 29, 2011
Help me…
December 29, 2011
hi mister i understand you are not a christian and that you feel masturbating is normal and natural,well as far as i know its no use keeping to a normal and natural tendency of masturbating if at the end you feel bad about it. i have been a victim of that addiction and i know that eventually masturbating leads to pornography addiction.if you feel bad after masturbating then something inside you is trying to tell you that what you are doing is wrong,if you want to stop masturbating i would encourage you to stop watching and listening to erotic videos and pictures.if you are a girl like me i know you want to still have your orgasm by the time you are married so save your orgasm for your future husband and also avoid ending the day without a bath, dont stay isolated from others and stay as busy as possible. take care
January 6, 2012
Thank you Jesus for this site. Man, you are so good.
Anyone with an addiction with this, I just want to say, The CROSS has done it all. Jesus died for EACH one of us and His love is never ending. Trust me, I find this addiction so difficult, but God is getting me through it because He wants the best for me!
The enemy keeps on tempting me with masturbation, and sometimes I fall into those temptations, but Jesus has forgiven me each time and is teaching me. I want to stop. Believe me, it shames me to say that I have this kinda addiction, but go to Christ again and again and again and He will forgive you EACH time. I found this site by accident. It is only by the Love of Christ that He has led me here. Amen!
He works in powerful ways. I LOVE JESUS because He FIRST LOVED ME.
January 21, 2012
guys please guys, head on to opendns then set up your account, now set up to block porn, now use the internet like normal, and everytime you search for something it will block you cause thats what jesus would have wanted!!!!
January 31, 2012
hey, look, it’s okay! don’t worry; almost the same thing happen to me, all you have to do is block all the porn sites. I don’t have the time to find one that blocks EVERY single porn site, but you know you can get 123blockme on the computer and block any sites that might turn you on, and try hanging out with more friends that don’t look around at the icky stuff.
hope i helped -Lily.
February 3, 2012
All My Brothers and Sisters , be very stable and take it easy and try not to think about it at all, the more u think , the more u mess up the struggle to quit this disgusting habit , Once or twice in every two weeks is ok but more than that its gross, u will be encountering sex without reason and also lack of self – esteem and confidence levels takes a deep root, but what really makes it worse is that you dont love yourself, How can u man !!!! u r using urself !!!. what if u were married (which i think some of u are ) and ur partner wants only sex ? definitely he or she will be disgusted and hatered does follows after a while …so , u have to have a gud relation with urself and to attain that u have to respect yourbody.
i have been masturbating since i was 18 and haven’t been able to control it fully, i am going to be 30 now but and dont have a career, no friends and no self-respect in the society, just because i am a MASTURBATOR. Masturbating is ok but only at the most thrice a week but more than u r messing up ur karma… just stop it and get ur life, ur happiness and blessings from shiv,ram or almighty Jesus, he will love u 4 it and plz dont sleep around, it messes up ur karma linked wit ur body.
delhi,India
February 7, 2012
i know how you feel. i am 15 and when my twin sister and i were little, and we saw things on tv and tried them out ourselves. we didnt know what we were doing was wrong, and the guilt from that has burdened me to this day. we mastrubated and such, and i dont do it very often, but i dont know what to do about the memories i have from that.
February 15, 2012
AR, just ask for forgiveness and ask God to take those memories away. Set your thoughts on higher things,..heavenly things,….everytime the past comes into mind,..tell yourself thats not who you really are,…bc you are a daughter of the most high. That sin is as far from you as the east is from the west!
February 19, 2012
@Hi Mister
Masturbation is wrong because it’s an addiction and anyone that says homosexuality is natural is a fatherfucking bitch.
Farewell.
February 22, 2012
First if you want to move beyond masturbation do not condemn masturbation. It is your churches and who have made you feel so bad, not masturbation. They have made it wrong and so you feel guilt. This way you have to turn to Christ or the church to save you, it is their way to get more followers . The sexual energy is a gift, a wonderful gift. Why condemn it? It is the same energy that can be used for creativity and art. But do not indulge either. Be watchful. Watch the sex energy arise in you. Notice the feeling but dont act on it. Breathe deeply into the spot and watch soon the sexual energy will dissipate. The best thing you can do is something creative. Then the energy will subside.
February 23, 2012
Can anybody offer my some advice??? I’m a girl, and I haven’t masturbated for months (I used to do it weekly) but tonight I was feeling really horny and just did it. I read some stuff and got off on it…
My boyfriend and I are both very religious and believe in abstinence. I am so ashamed of myself right now. As hard as I try, I just can’t seem to stop. I need help.
March 1, 2012
I have been masturbating a lot since my lover left for Afghanistan, however, it started happening when he wasn’t around, too. I thought I was getting addicted, and when to look for some help. This was the first site I found, however, after reading the first few posts, I realized that if masturbating gleefully means I won’t act like you folks, then I am not even going to try to stop.
I am opening my favorite porn site as I send this, and I am going to come three times in a row, just to spite you. Thanks for letting me know it’s okay to touch myself a lot. It makes me awesome.
March 15, 2012
Jessica really!!! If your going to be like that don’t even bother you really need some Jesus in your life pray to him before you go shoving anything anywhere
March 15, 2012
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March 28, 2012
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