Long a scene thought to be enmeshed in the male experience, masturbation and pornography addiction take no prisoners. No matter your gender, age or relationship status, you or someone you know can fall prey to these highly personal, hard-to-discuss addictions. And, if you are embroiled in the personal turmoil that accompanies theses sexual dependencies, you know how difficult they are to stop.
Statisticians from DivorceWizards.com and Today’s Christian Women tell us that:
- 28 percent of women interviewed admitted to a sexual addiction
- 43 percent of American women suffer from sexual dysfunction
- 34 percent of women admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn
- A startling 76 percent on Internet initiated sexual exploitation cases involved young children
- 75 percent of those incidents involved girls aged 13-15
Pornography addiction is dangerous. Masturbation addiction and pornography addictions tend to feed off each other and take addicts to unfamiliar and unanticipated territory. For partners, the use of these fantasies actually diminishes the intimacy of intercourse.
- 41 percent of surveyed adults admitted they felt less attractive because of their partner’s use of pornography
- 42 percent of interviewed partner said the use of pornography made them feel less secure with their partner.
The problem for both men and women is that these personal addictions escalate rapidly. Soon, masturbation is viewed as a form of instant relief from stress, strained relations or even financial difficulties. In truth, masturbation yields a diminished short-term result and leaves behind three things:
- A sense of loneliness
- Self doubt
- A brief neurochemical sensation emitted to the brain
Upon completion, the same problems exist that contributed to the act. The male or female has simply given in to one more brief and impulsive urge. Gone is self-control. Gone is reality. Present are the same conditions that caused the act.
Around the globe, it is estimated that 20 percent of women struggle with porn addiction. One in every three visitors to online porn sites is female. More than 10 million women access adult web sites at least once a month. So, let’s be real. Porn addiction and masturbation addiction are not male exclusive. In fact, these addictions can be signals for other, underlying emotions. Isn’t it time to take action.
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ResistingTheUrge
January 22, 2011
porn ruins your life
February 5, 2011
Porn addiction can be controlled and stopped. It’s actually not as hard as people think it is.
February 11, 2011
It’s not difficult to stop, but to stay stopped during stress.
March 30, 2011
It CAN ruin your life if you let it. It doesn’t ruin everyone’s life.
April 3, 2011
I got addicted to it ever since i moved out of my home to uni life, and i live off campus thats why i need to get home early and as a result just stuck at home for a long duration all alone…leading to internet usage…dirty sites…and one thing lead to another, i never used to touch myself till i was 20, im 22 now tried it first felt awefully weird but then after feeling the climax for the first time, it went all down hill from there, my skin was very clear and now its prone to acne which sucks!!!
) i notice my skin getting all clear again, talk about guilt, yeah i feel that too, not to mention that it actually made me delay in doing a lot of important university work!
yeah i have read those medical experts saying it aint so, but thatsnot right
as soon as a stop max (1week, and when having the time of the month then better
i know sounds unbelieveable right?
during first year i used to go out a lot and exertions causeing immediate sleep as soon as a hit the bed. now well i feel like it ruining my life, well i have made a start and hopefully keep up with it, i see most of the comments are by dudes i wanna know if any other gals feel the same way.
so tell me what else should i do to avoid such hedious act, i have already stopped pronography im gonna try that rubber band thingy and see if that works, and read my self to sleep ( and yeah not dirty stuff too lol )
I sincerely would like to stop any tips and support is most welcome fellas.
April 8, 2011
Well, I am a Christian female and I have to admit that I seriously do love porn. It has made my life 100% better in every way, shape, and form. And these stats do not nearly describe me at all. I do not have a sexual addiction nor do I suffer from any type of sexual dysfunction. I never experience a sense of loneliness when I masturbate and I don’t ever feel any self doubt in myself. To tell the truth, I am the CEO of a huge business, and masturbation and porn have never, and I mean never, ruined nor harmed my life in any way shape or form. I am writing all of this to tell you guys that masturbation and most porn is not always harmful. It can even be a good stress reliever to most people.
May 8, 2011
Keep up the the good work fairydoll, its really worth it wen u stop, i hav stopped 4 2 months now and it feels great, i am savin lots of time and i actually feel like i am in control of my life and not a slave to my addiction . the longer u hav stopped, the easier it gets, u r also increasin ur will power the longer u stop. My tip to u is to find out the times wen u normally masturbate, say at night, and avoid turnin on the computer, just get up early the next mornin 2 work then. 2 get ur mind of it while ur at home alone watch a movie. after a couple of weeks u won’t feel as strong an urge to masturbate at these times. You aren’t givin it up, you are jsut waitin until u r married, if u wait until u r married it will feel soooo much beta than if u masturbate up until u r married, and research shows u will continue to masturbate into ur marriage. Honestly tho, the thing which got me to get through that first week was Jesus, whenever i felt the urge i prayed to him and a distraction would happen to get my mind off it, another time i was trying to access porn on my mobile and i was tryin to download a video which i had downloaded videos from numerous times before, after the downloading failing the 1st time for no reason i prayed to God not to let it work if he didn’t want me to watch the video, i tried downloading two different videos, each time it failed, i stopped after that and didn’t masturbate, thankyou Jesus. “anything is possible through Him who gives me strength”. The benefits of stopping outwieght the benefits of not stopping 1000 to 1. the only benefit to masturbation is those 10 seconds of climax and if you wiegh it up, it sure isn’t worth it, there are many other ways to get a similar feelin which last much longer, like getting out in the fresh air and riding a bike or something
May 8, 2011
Keep up the the good work fairydoll, its really worth it wen u stop, i hav stopped 4 2 months now and it feels great, i am savin lots of time and i actually feel like i am in control of my life and not a slave to my addiction . the longer u hav stopped, the easier it gets, u r also increasin ur will power the longer u stop. My tip to u is to find out the times wen u normally masturbate, say at night, and avoid turnin on the computer, just get up early the next mornin 2 work then. 2 get ur mind of it while ur at home alone watch a movie. after a couple of weeks u won’t feel as strong an urge to masturbate at these times. You aren’t givin it up, you are jsut waitin until u r married, if u wait until u r married it will feel soooo much beta than if u masturbate up until u r married, and research shows u will continue to masturbate into ur marriage. Honestly tho, the thing which got me to get through that first week was Jesus, whenever i felt the urge i prayed to him and a distraction would happen to get my mind off it, another time i was trying to access porn on my mobile and i was tryin to download a video which i had downloaded videos from numerous times before, after the downloading failing the 1st time for no reason i prayed to God not to let it work if he didn’t want me to watch the video, i tried downloading two different videos, each time it failed, i stopped after that and didn’t masturbate, thankyou Jesus. “anything is possible through Him who gives me strength”. The benefits of stopping outwieght the benefits of not stopping 1000 to 1. the only benefit to masturbation is those 10 seconds of climax and if you wiegh it up, it sure isn’t worth it, there are many other ways to get a similar feelin which last much longer, like getting out in the fresh air and riding a bike or something
May 8, 2011
Keep up the the good work fairydoll, its really worth it wen u stop, i hav stopped 4 2 months now and it feels great, i am savin lots of time and i actually feel like i am in control of my life and not a slave to my addiction . the longer u hav stopped, the easier it gets, u r also increasin ur will power the longer u stop. My tip to u is to find out the times wen u normally masturbate, say at night, and avoid turnin on the computer, just get up early the next mornin 2 work then. 2 get ur mind of it while ur at home alone watch a movie. after a couple of weeks u won’t feel as strong an urge to masturbate at these times. You aren’t givin it up, you are jsut waitin until u r married, if u wait until u r married it will feel soooo much beta than if u masturbate up until u r married, and research shows u will continue to masturbate into ur marriage. Honestly tho, the thing which got me to get through that first week was Jesus, whenever i felt the urge i prayed to him and a distraction would happen to get my mind off it, another time i was trying to access porn on my mobile and i was tryin to download a video which i had downloaded videos from numerous times before, after the downloading failing the 1st time for no reason i prayed to God not to let it work if he didn’t want me to watch the video, i tried downloading two different videos, each time it failed, i stopped after that and didn’t masturbate, thankyou Jesus. “anything is possible through Him who gives me strength”. The benefits of stopping outwieght the benefits of not stopping 1000 to 1. the only benefit to masturbation is those 10 seconds of climax and if you wiegh it up, it sure isn’t worth it, there are many other ways to get a similar feelin which last much longer, like getting out in the fresh air and riding a bike or something
Also, i’m pretty sure u r addicted but u don’t know it Mandy, try stopping for 1 month
May 14, 2011
well ive been masterbating and i know it wrong but like once you start its so difficult to stop but im doing better im in a bit of a fix right now but God helps me thru it im in a True Holiness church and im seeking the Lord but satan keeps dragging me down with this burdon im so ashamed of myself but im trying so keep me in your prayers please…
May 22, 2011
dear Godlovesme,
yes i will definitely keep you in my prayers, don’t give up, for God doesn’t give up on you, if you fail just try again, the numerous times i failed and tried again, and each time God helped me through it. Rmemeber, “I can do all this through Himw who gives me strength” Philippians 4:13
September 22, 2011
im a girl and i started when i was 12 and i used to feel all weired when i climaxed but it feelt soo good at the same time. now im 17 and i want to becomeing more invloed with critens and i want to sever god so i want to resite masterbateing and haveing sex. i know its not going to be eas but i know i can do it!!
October 9, 2011
I’m a Christian as well and I do not condone pornography. I don’t think you should condone anything that God hates.Even if it’s something that you do, dont say its alright because its not. Just thank God for having mercy on us. I’ve been addicted to it for years, but God knows i don’t justify it. It is a struggle of mine. My biggest struggle. I would never say that it isnt harmful because it is. It makes me feel absolutely horrible after i look at it. I encourage every Christian that looks at it to STOP as I encourage my own self. Like Paul said, I die daily. For me, it will be a long battle even after i quit because I’m sure the enemy will bring it back up again.
October 10, 2011
Love u so much. Thanks.
November 11, 2011
I’ve been struggling with masturbation ever since I was 10. I’m a 19 year old woman now and I still struggle with it EVERY DAY. I’m engaged to a wonderful man that I’m waiting to have sex with until our wedding night but I’m afraid that my masturbation addiction is going to keep me from experiencing genuine pleasure with him. He doesn’t know about my addiction, I’m scared for him to know about it. For 9 years, I’ve tried to stop masturbating and the longest I’ve gone without is a few weeks. I’ve prayed about it, I’ve had accountability partners but nothing seems to work! Please help!
November 13, 2011
Hey well I’m a 15 year old girl and I’m addicted to masturbation. It started when my nana died just before my 10th birthday. Ive tried to stop b4 and the longest I’ve given up is 2 weeks. But I want to start over. I’m also overweight and its spring now and this summer I’m making sure it will be different. I do it everyay, sometime 3 or 4 times a day. I have to stop I’m starting to get lines on my body. While I’m masturbating I feel great but hen I stop and I’m ashamed. Nobody knows. I’ve never said a word about it.
November 14, 2011
girl masturbation is serious. being a christian makes it worst b’coz there is no absolutely no one you can confide in at that time b’coz you feel guilty. the only one you can talk to is Christ. that guy is the most patient beign ever. considering the fact that this the only site that i’ve seen a girl open up is a plus. it takes just more than prayers to overcome it because without determination its cause 90. i hope everyone who is addicted breaks free. remember, it starts from the brain
November 27, 2011
@FairyDoll try checking out this website – http://www.yourbrainonporn.com It seriously helps! Focus more on the rebooting accounts of people trying to overcome masturbation. You’ll find out that you aren’t alone in this struggle and that it is very possible to stop it.
December 2, 2011
PRAY FOR ME PLZZ I HAVE A BAD ADDICTION .!
December 24, 2011
OmG! Im so thankful to this site. Reading about fellow girls who are also struggling to quit, gives me hope and increases my determination to stop. Im prayin for everybody here, lets not give up, we all know its hard but not impossible. Something worth having does not come easily. It sucks when you know that you are young & beautiful but yet again dont have self control. One love to you brothers & sisters
December 29, 2011
I am suffering from spells of porn addiction i am able to last a good 6 months without it but after that i get these intense feelings to watch it and i don’t like it but the weakness i have is more for celebrity porn, they usually break me down and this time around I even masturbated and I am really at a place where I am loosing hope against the war really tough and tips to keep a pure mind
January 5, 2012
Hey guys, thank you so much for posting… thanks to you all i feel i have hope. I have been trying to stop, and i did for a couple of weeks… but i got dragged into it again. I am also a very anxious person. All i want is to please God and go to heaven when i die… Im so confused about the meaning of life and the way God wants me to live. If i could just stop this addiction then i would feel 100% and closer to God.
When i do these bad things… i feel so far away and distant.
Im 16 this year, and since my new years resolution didnt work out, i hope i can stop now. My brain is constantly thinking of reasons as to why i wont go to heaven… and that plus my anxiousness – does not help.
Bottom line – If i could stop… my brain would have nothing to blame… and i would feel like i am going to heaven. I am a good girl, apart from this one thing that drags me down… Will I go to heaven???
January 6, 2012
I started masturbating in the year 1998 and am know 28yrs old,i can even manage to stay 4 six months without masturbating,but sometimes i feel the urge to do it.Am maried and i wonder y i do it,sometimes
Ido it when my wife isnt in the mood,when i do she doesnt know,i pray to JEHOVAH to get me out of this for sure its very bad after cumming,pray for me all of you ,i dont feel good when sin,GOD please forgive me,get me thru this AMEN
February 3, 2012
Wow I didn’t realize so many people struggle with the same thing that I do… Well I’m 18 now and I’ve been masturbating since 14. I haven’t done it for 2 weeks because I was on vacation with my family, but now that I’m back I am so tempted! Help!