You have read about it in the newspapers. You have heard celebrities discuss their sexual addictions and problems. You will rarely hear them discuss masturbation and pornography addictions. Yet, these two relatively private, silent dependencies are growing globally beyond reason and at great risk to society. Part of the reason for this growth is the personal nature of the addiction. These are difficult addictions to publicize or discuss.
Men and women acknowledge infidelity, excessive sexual drive and loose morals but are hesitant to discuss the world of fantasy; the world of pornography and masturbation. But, make no mistake about it, these addictions are serious and carry serious repercussions as well as necessitate through rehabilitation.
One way to analyze you masturbation or pornography addiction is to evaluate the negative associations that typify the dependencies. These addictions place the individual in a fantasy world, filled with unattainable expectations, a lack of reality and self-absorbed indulgence. These are unhealthy contributors to your lifestyle.
Your fantasy addiction must leave you feeling like who is running the show. The slightest fantasy suggestion can grab control of your presence and force you to search for re-supply. Persons who masturbate and use pornography generally are increasingly isolated so your habit is changing the way you live and the way you thought you would live.
Doubtless, you have put yourself, your career and perhaps even you legal status at risk in pursuit of these addictions, just as drug abusers and alcohol abusers do when they continue to use. Imagination is a wonderful attributer, but it has to be controlled, like stress, pressure or over-eating.
If you begin to concentrate on all the negative attributes of these personal sexual addictions, you will quickly realize why your life seems out of control. You will have to be patient. You may have to make dramatic lifestyle changes, even partnership changes, but stay focused. Good things will happen.
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ResistingTheUrge
August 31, 2010
man its hard to controll.have been doin it 4 nine yrs now.and im 23.gotta get copntroll of my thoughts
September 13, 2010
what i am looking for is more likely of quiting masturbation. i want to put a stop to it once and for all. however i am only getting methods on controlling this habit rather than overcoming it. any suggestion on how to quit this habit..?
September 22, 2010
I have been trying to stop masturbating since i was in my teens and it didnt work, it worked when i became 21 when i realised that my actions has consequences and one of the consequences may be that my son might get involved in the same thing and maybe even worse and now i am 26 and am working with my adopted son and he is going through the same scenario and dont know how to deal with it. To help him we talk, about it freely and i work with him as an accountability partner, not even his mother dont know that he has this problem, and we try to keep it between father and son.
September 25, 2010
Please help me control myself to stop masturdating.And tell me the effect.
October 7, 2010
I cant control my masturburation activities . I loss my body health , .so Please give me some tips to stop masturburation . .
October 27, 2010
I have some issues with this anti-masturbation agenda.
The text on this site talks about “drug and alcohol abuse.” Alcohol is a drug. Would you say “drug and heroin abuse?” I think not. Your misunderstanding of this harms your credibility.
Second, ejaculation is a very good thing. Studies have shown that men who ejaculate once or more per day decrease their chances of getting prostrate cancer by about 50%. Prostrate cancer kills more men than women are killed by breast cancer. Follow the advice of this site and increase your chances of getting prostrate cancer by two fold. Is that a good trade-off? I think not.
Unless a person is masturbating for many hours per day, which I suppose is possible, masturbation isn’t a concern, so long as it is done in private and not in a public place. Medical science finds nothing wrong with masturbation and has found many good things about it.
Lastly, there is no accepted diagnosis of “addiction to pornography.” There may be a mild addiction to the chemicals released in the brain during orgasm but the addiction is not to pornography. Saying that a person is addicted to pornography is like saying a person is addicted to a crack cocaine pipe. It is not the pipe to which the person is addicted but the cocaine.
The worst thing about masturbation is the guilt so many of you try to saddle others with and you should be ashamed of yourselves.
November 1, 2010
Anyone else notice that there’s a picture of a woman appearing to be experiencing pleasure at the top of a section on a web page advocating decreased masturbation?
January 7, 2011
The more you try to find wrong things about article, the more you are denying yourself of your own wrong actions. There is nothing wrong with the picture, there is nothing wrong with attributing masturbation with drugs. This author is giving his sincere thought in the most revelatory way and I completely follow his words because my situation has come to a critical point that my whole 10 years of relationship has been put to question. Please open your mind and realize that excessive masturbation is addictive and it leads to hazardous thinking, hazardous actions and unfortunately, a damaged fate. These articles give me hope and inspiration to put my past addictions and learn to control it. You cannot get rid of urges completely, I think, but what the author is trying to reinforce is to learn how to control your urges! Our whole lives depend on our ability to control, and he’s absolutely right that it even comes down to our eating habits. Ever since my relationship has cracked, I took immediate action to change things. I have lost a lot of excess weight, I have stopped masturbating, I have began looking at world differently, I have become more proactive in life and good things are happening! Please listen to what author is saying, it is not a lie, it is all true, I am a living proof of his words. Open your mind and begin to learn how to control, not quitting, but controlling your urges; you don’t have to be religious, I am not, but it applies the same principles, but you have to have a strong determination and strong vision to follow this… Sooner or later you will understand it.
February 16, 2011
In fact,masturbation has ruined my life and I have regretted ever indulging in it.I have been doing it for 8 years now.I wanted to stop after the 1st year passed but I’m in my 8th year now.I overdo this and it seems I do it almost everyday and I dont know why I cant stop cos I have tried all my best to quit it completely.It started when I was so shy of getting near girls but I was highly sexually active.Now Im 21, have got an exquisite brunette girlfriend and I cant have sex with her and even if I do,I dont feel anything but feel good rather masturbating.She has no idea about my problems.I want help from all over the world to stop it completely cos it is killing me.I get my balls aching all the time since I do it everyday and u can calculate the no_ of times I have dond this in 8 years.Is it spiritual?Then anybody out there who cares should help me out,please,if I would even directed to a pastor fora prayers or a spiritualist.Thanx.
February 20, 2011
Hi your honest and willingness to stop is admirable! I’ll find somone I know to help you! Until then, I’m here to support you through your journey to stoping.
February 21, 2011
Hello my friend, you see, you don’t need to be directed to any pastor or spiritualist the only thing you need is JESUS, He is the only one that can help you from your addiction, you need to accept him into your heart, he is waiting at the door of your heart, his arms are open wide no matter what you have done in the past he is willing to accept you, transform you, heal you, and spend eternity with you in heaven, now the question is are you willing, do you want an all round transformation, are you tired of all these problems and burdens, If YES, you need to come to JESUS, he said; come to me all you that labour and are heavy laden and i will give you rest, if you want to have peace and rest from all your burdens, if you want a change; recite this prayer of repentance on your knees; Lord JESUS, i come to you today, I am a sinner, i have lived my life the way i wanted and have come to realize that everything in it is all temporary that in you alone can i find eternal peace and joy and you are the way, the truth & the life, i believe you died for me on the cross that you shed your blood for my sins and rose on the third day, so Lord JESUS, i need you, i want you to come into my life, change me, cleanse away my sins with your blood, save me from this addiction, mould my life, create in me a new heart and a desire for you and i will sing of your praise forever, thank you JESUS AMEN. If you prayed that prayer then i want to welcome you as a joint heir to JESUS, I want you to know that he has forgiven and forgotten all those ugly past, you are now a new creature in christ old things are passed away all things have become new, so the next step is to get closer to him, seek his face each and every day, and you can only do that by reading your Bible, and meditate on it, when i say meditate i mean let his words fill and cleanse your thoughts after reading the word, don’t just read, reflect what you have read on your life and also ask the HOLY SPIRIT for understanding of the word and by doing this you are cleansing your thoughts of every pollution cause they have been polluted by spending hours watching porn stuffs, knowing fully well that it is your thoughts that makes your masturbate, because you think about masturbating before committing the act, therefore by purifying your thoughts with the thoughts of the word of God, you will begin to find out gradually that you are begining to think less & less about masturbating and whenever you are tempted to masturbate i want you to use the word of God like (2 corinthians 5:17) which says therefore if any man be in christ he is a new creature, old things are passed away; behold all things have become new. Therefore masturbation is passed away porn stuffs are passed away, and (Romans 6:11) reckon yourself as dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus, therefore you are dead unto masturbation and every addiction but alive through Jesus, you can personalize & recite these words sincerely with all authority every morning and night let them be your first & last words each day, temptation can happen at any time the devil will try to make you backslide but i want you to use the word of God as a weapon, even Jesus was tempted by the devil but he used the word of God to overcome, another way you can overcome the urge to sin is to close your eyes (on matter how strong that urge may be just close your eyes) and imagine Jesus on the cross visualize yourself at the feet of the cross, yield yourself, let him take away the urge to sin & say these words “Jesus i surrender myself unto you take control” continue saying them till the urge is gone, and don’t forget to pray and open your heart to your father. Also i want to encourage you to attend a bible believing church & also watch TBN(trinity broadcasting network) it is a global evangelical channel to build the faith of believers like you & I.
Lastly, relationship with Christ is an everyday affair & if ever you find yourself backsliding the next step is to run back to the Father, the bible says his mercies endures forever no matter what you did he his willing to forgive, don’t let the devil get you condemning yourself or telling you that God hates you that is a lie, he loves you than you can ever imagine, my dear, if you follow these steps, i tell you, you are definitely going to become a better person & most importantly you’re on your way to spending eternity with God in heaven. Much love from Abraham, you can also write me at Abraham_segun2001@yahoo.com.
Peace & God bless.
March 6, 2011
am in your shoe the writer of feb 16 note, i feel hopeless and only God can save us in his own way.mine is i think roughly 13 years now and cant stop.what a tragedy
May 2, 2011
Thanks to the site owner for making this site to be a life-saving site. The truth is that many people will go to hell because of this act most especially the youths. Also, do not forget that there are devil incarnates all around this world marauding the whole corners of the world with fat lies. How many men have been affected by postrate cancer? Rather, their marriage, social, emotional, academic and their business life gets screwed. As anyone that started masturbation if they never regretted it at any point in time. If what you’re doing is correct , then you should not have regrets.
Lesbianism also is another sin eating up girls in the world; this one is another big topic on its own.
The truth is that am guilty of this same offence and I know how it has ruined my goals in my academic pursuit. Each time I become sexually arose, I cry but at the end of the day it seems as if it won me, then regret comes in. I’m a medicine student and at times when I want to read(alone in my bedroom), masturbation comes in and shatters my planned reading. At the end, I find myself sleeping as if I just had sex. I know that this is not good because I have dreams, visions and goals and I don’t want this sexual desire to stop me from my aims in life. I don’t want my future happiness to be ruined and that is why I need help. Okay, can you imagine that there was a day I masturbated more than four times of which each lasted for nothing less than one hour and at the end of the day blood started coming out from my penis instead of the normal semen.
Whenever, we see a spade let us call it a spade. There’s no prove that justifies pornography, masturbation, lesbianism, homosexuals, and all type of sexual perversions. Whatever is sin is sin and nothing connects it with holiness. I know I can be the best in my field of study without any form of these sexual perversions.
Okay, let me ask you this question; which group of persons does this act? The answer to that is, the majority. Whatever comes from the majority comes from the devil and these persons are on thd broad way leading to hell, why not join the minority on their narrow way to heaven. This life that you have must end one day and God will ask you what you used your hands to do, and perhaps your answer will be that the hands that is meant to be lifted up to praise Him was busy fondling your penis or piercing your vagina. Sorry for you if that will be your testimony! Wait a minute, why not ask yourself if you have life goals and how masturbation has helped you to realise them. Sit down alone in your bedroom, think of who and what you want to be,think of life after death, think of your sexual desires, ask yourself if they are worth making you lose your vision and if they are worth taking you to hell where you ‘ll have no peace forever.
No matter how harsh the truth may beaccept it because,at the end of the day it will set you free. God loves you, Jesus loves you, I also love you. Your life is valuable than these things. Thank God you have taken a step to stop and my prayer for you is that you will be completely delivered in Jesus name, amen. I pray that these things will not ruin your life and that at the end of your life here on earth you will make heaven in Jesus name.
Accept Jesus today and live like him, do everything he did and you will not only overcome your flesh but you’ll make heaven.
God bless you…
May 2, 2011
Masturbation has ruined my life and some of my academic goals. It’s problem to me and I must say the truth for me to be saved. I have wasted about 9-10 months of my academic session yet I have not been able to cover even a topic. After the act, I either develope hatred for girls or hate myself. At times after the act I find myself so weak to read and even if I try I ‘ll be slow and understanding will not be there. I hate sex and that’s the truth but masturbation wants to introduce it into my life. I started this in 2007 and I want to end it now, I mean now because soon my professional exams will be around the corner and only Jesus will save me. Moreover, I don’t God to meet me in the act, am afraid to go to hell because it’s not a fun place at all. You have my email just message me because am losing myself to the consequences of this evil ordeal. It has introduce some unexpected behaviours and habits into my life. Life isn’t fun again as it used to be. I always want to be the best but masturbation won’t let me. I want her dead now, because she came from the pit of hell and my life is worth being in heaven. What will I teach my children when I get married? What will I tell my wife perhaps I cause a problem to my life now. The future is more important than now and I don’t want masturbating to take my beautiful future from me. Please help me and help the persons in this world of masturbation and every other sexual perversion as written by ‘Emmanuel ‘
July 20, 2011
.. I had stopped masturbating on april 26th 2009 and was doing gud for like 2 years until recently. Im not exactly sure if its comin from the stress of school or juss my body continuing to change( 20 years old) but i had recently started again after tryin not to wen it juss became really unbearable to deal with physically. I had been praying and tryn to figure out how i can juss distract myself like gettin out of bed but i think to myself ill be tired if i do and juss listen to my ipod which makes me feel worse becuz i listen to contemporay christian music and not feel worthy of gettin another chance. I dont want God to be mad at me for fallin into it so fast i wish it neevr came across my path at all. I get turned on so easy even wen im not even thinkin bout itwhich makes me feel like it could juss be a medical problem. I def dont want this to affect my future relationshp with my husband…
July 20, 2011
Ps… I dont do this every night fyi. I always juss feel like im gonna fall asleep naturally like i want to in the first place!!! Juss so u would before u give input
October 17, 2011
You guys aren’t serious, are you? If you are, you’re both spreading a lot BS as well as making a laughingstock of yourselves. I’m female and find this entire website hysterically funny. It would make a good edition for one of those “I gave myself to Jesus, but now he never calls” mock-Christian sites. It’s normal, natural, and healthy.